Cari Romm (2016) wrote an interesting article for NYMag.com called,“Here’s the Most Effective Way to Say No to Things You Don’t Want to Do.” We really liked it so we decided to share it with you!
Saying “No” can sometimes be more difficult than anticipated. We often like to avoid ending up feeling bad or guilty for letting someone down, even if it’s at the expense of pushing our own boundaries or comfort levels. Most of us don’t want to come off as unhelpful, or be “the bad guy.” Regretfully saying “yes” seems like the easy way out.
With the new year upon us, why not put into practice an effective way to say “no” without the added discomfort.
According to the article on NYMag.com, “Here’s the Most Effective Way to Say No to Things You Don’t Want to Do“ (Romm, 2016);
The key to a guilt-free “no” is to choose your words wisely.
Cari Romm states that the word “don’t” is more powerful than using the word “can’t.” Using “don’t” lessens the chances of future reversal of your original statement.
She uses the example of “I don’t answer emails on Saturday nights,” versus saying “I can’t answer emails on Saturday nights.”
And who can argue with that?
can’t … opps, “I don’t.”
Want to connect with Dr. Gia? Click <HERE> to request information.